Recent research finds “humility” is critical to successful, lasting and happy relationship building. And if the current study’s findings hold up in future research, say coauthors Everett Worthington of Virginia Commonwealth University and Carissa Dwiwardani of Regent University, “This might encourage family members to be less entrenched in defending their point of view during disagreements, more likely to say, ‘Help me learn from you,’ and to experience personal growth together in their relationships with one another.”
Vicki Zakrzewski, Ph.D., is the education director of the Greater Good Science Center. She states – “ Our culture places so much value on external accomplishments, appearance, and self-glorification—all things that are temporary at best—that even a small display of this quiet virtue (Humility) can make one feel like a drowning man coming up for air.
Yet why can it be so challenging for us to express humility? Is it because we often misinterpret its active demonstration to be a sign of weakness, when in actuality it is an indication of tremendous inner strength. What science is discovering bout this quality helps us also to understand what has led many to regard it (Humility) as the mother of all virtues.
It’s not the personal drawing of attention to your accomplishments or your abilities that make you great, as is the process so rampant in society everyday across the globe. Rather it is the yielding to draw attention to oneself and instead allow for the unprompted voluntary attention and recognition from others as to your abilities and accomplishments that actually make one great.
Through Family Reconcile’s exclusive mentorship program we often bring about the desired results people seek with their difficult or even estranged relationships. Additionally we can help bring about these desired changes in yourself personally, changes that will nourish your soul, and enrich your life.
The real question Family Reconcile helps you uncover is – what do you really want for yourself and your relationships ?
Why You Need A Mentor To Successfully Reconnect / Repair A Relationship
The Search Institute describes the building blocks of a solid mentoring relationship as Expressing Care, Challenging Growth, Sharing Power, Providing Support, and Expanding Possibilities. Weaving these ideas into your mentoring relationship can help solidify your connection to your mentee as a developmental relationship.
A mentor does not fix you, a mentor empowers you.
What obstacle(s) in your life path do you need to overcome or relationship goals do you need to achieve to get to a different level in your life? This is a perfect place to start with a mentor.
A huge misconception about having a mentor – A lot of people go into a mentor relationship believing their mentor will ride shotgun with them throughout their entire life from there on.
A true mentor / mentee relationship will set a soft deadline on an initial engagement from the beginning That way, there’s a natural exit after value has been provided. If you have great chemistry and want to continue chatting after that, that’s awesome. But don’t make it the expectation.